Tell everyone you know: "My happiness depends on me, so you're off the hook." And then demonstrate it. Be happy, no matter what they're doing. Practice feeling good, no matter what. And before you know it, you will not give anyone else responsibility for the way you feel -- and then, you'll love them all. Because the only reason you don't love them, is because you're using them as your excuse to not feel good.
i am really trying hard to follow this piece of wisdom. seems like it would be pretty liberating to not worry about what everyone else is doing...especially those who aren't doing what i wish they were doing...assuming that if they were in fact doing as i hoped...i would be happy.
in the end it's not really my business what anyone else is doing anyway. i can try to psychoanalyze anything, but in the end, is it worth it? i've always felt like i've needed to understand things...but if i can understand that my happiness depends on me...and the ways i demonstrate it...then i am not only letting others off the hook, i am also unhooking myself from using anyone or anyone's behavior as an excuse to not feel good.